What to do when babies cry – what science says

Crying is exhausting, but it serves a purpose: babies are completely dependent on their parents when they are born. In the first months of life, crying is their only way to communicate with their environment. Crying in all its forms therefore ensures that the baby's basic needs are met. Experience shows that babies usually cry less once they have learned other ways to communicate, such as making faces, simple gestures, or first sounds.

Basic trust – foundation for a stable personality

A secure, stable bond between a baby and its parents is one of the basic prerequisites for a content childhood and healthy personality development. This also includes babies knowing from the start that mom and dad are there when needed. Babies may sometimes cry seemingly for no reason, but never to provoke their parents.

What to do when the baby cries

It is important to respond as directly as possible when a baby cries — this is part of natural parent-child communication and will significantly shape your child's confidence. You don't have to pick up your child at the slightest whimper. If you are sure that your baby is fed and clean and generally comfortable, stroking, soothing sounds, or a song can help. What's important is that you show your baby that you are there — try to listen to your gut when it comes to crying.

Reasons for crying

• Hunger or having drunk too much

• A full diaper

• Pain or discomfort

• Tiredness

• Your baby is cold or too warm

• It is processing new experiences

• It wants to be close to you

Don't worry: Many parents only develop a sense for the different needs and types of crying over time and can react accordingly.

How much crying is normal?

How much and how long babies cry varies. Almost all babies need some time to find their way in the world, but depending on temperament they react differently to restlessness, physical needs, or the need for closeness.

Checklist – what to do when your baby cries

• Keep calm

• Always go to your child

• Find possible reasons for the crying

• If your baby cannot be soothed:

  • Provide a calm, safe environment (no loud music, etc.)

  • Carry the baby in your arms or in a sling

  • Distraction through a baby massage, a song, etc.

• If nothing helps at all:

  • Put the baby down safely and, if necessary, leave the room for a few minutes to breathe

  • Seek support from family members

  • Seek advice from a midwife/pediatrician/crying clinic