What to do when babies cry – what the science says

\rCrying is exhausting, but it serves a purpose: babies are completely dependent on their parents when they come into the world. In the first months of life, crying is their only way to communicate with their environment. Crying in all its forms therefore ensures that the baby's basic needs are met. Experience shows that babies usually cry less once they have learned additional ways to communicate, such as making faces, simple gestures, or first sounds.\r

Basic trust – foundation for a stable personality

\rA secure, stable bond between a baby and its parents is one of the prerequisites for a content childhood and healthy personality development. This also includes that babies know from the start that mom and dad are there when they are needed. Babies may sometimes seem to cry for no reason, but never to provoke their parents.\r

What to do when the baby cries

It is important to respond as promptly as possible when a baby cries – this is part of natural parent-child communication and will decisively shape your child's self-confidence. You don't have to pick your child up from the crib at the slightest whimper. If you're sure your baby is fed and clean and generally comfortable, a gentle stroke, soothing sounds, or a song can also help. What's important is that you show your baby that you are there – try to trust your gut when it comes to crying.\r

Reasons for crying

• Hunger or having drunk too much\r

• A full diaper\r

• Pain or discomfort\r

• Tiredness\r

• Your baby is cold or too warm\r

• It is processing new experiences\r

• It wants to be close to you\r

Don't worry: Many parents only develop a sense for the different needs and types of crying over time and are then able to respond accordingly.\r

How much crying is normal?\r

How much and how long babies cry varies. Almost all babies need some time to find their way in the world, but depending on temperament they react differently to restlessness, physical needs, or the need for closeness.\r

Checklist – what to do when your baby cries

• Keep calm\r

• Always go to your child\r

• Identify possible reasons for the crying\r

• If your baby won't calm down:\r

  • Ensure a calm, safe environment (no loud music, etc.)\r

  • Carry the baby in your arms or in a baby sling\r

  • Distract with a baby massage, a song, etc.\r

• If nothing helps at all:\r

  • Put the baby down safely and, if necessary, leave the room for a few minutes to catch your breath\r

  • Seek support from family members

  • Seek advice from a midwife/pediatrician/crying clinic